Honoring. Remembering. Healing.
Pieces of a Meaningful Funeral
Honoring the life of your loved one means you value the relationship you shared. Funerals help us say goodbye. They honor and remember the person who has died. Funeral allow us to be surrounded by a loving support system of friends and family members.
"Each piece of the funeral serves a unique purpose," according to Dr. Alan Wolfelt, grief expert, "and plays an important role in helping us express what everyday words and actions cannot. When people and ceremony come together, meaning emerges and healing begins to unfold. When you put the pieces together, a ceremony is created that is deserving of the special life that was lived."
Funeral Elements and How the Help Us (according to Dr. Wolfelt)
- Visitation/Reception: Allows the family to receive friends, activates your support system, and give others an opportunity to express their concern and love for you. If the body is present, this gives friends and family one last opportunity to say goodbye.
- Music: Is an avenue to express through feelings what words cannot say. It plays an important role in helping people embrace their feelings.
- Readings: Capture our beliefs and express them in meaningful texts that comfort those present.
- Eulogy/Remembrance: Gives a voice to our inner thoughts and feelings about the person who died and helps us begin to embrace the meaning of their unique life. The word "eulogy" comes from the Greek eulogia which means praise or blessing. This is why we give thanks during eulogy for a person's unique life.
- Symbols/Actions: People display symbols such as crosses, candles, flowers to give form to the meaning of their life. They give people an opportunity to honor someone with their feelings through actions like lighting a candle or placing flowers on a casket.
- Gathering: Funerals give family and friends an opportunity to gather, share memories, and express their love and support for one another. Through community each person is strengthened and mourners return home with a sense of loving support and feeling they are not alone.